Meaningful Rest
Ben Horseman and Judy West | January 25, 2026
Rest isn't just a luxury, it is actually commanded by God. But what does "rest" really mean? Is it different than laziness? Should we only do it once we're tired and exhausted? Join us as we explore what it means to rest in a regular, biblical, and God-honoring way.
Then Jesus said, “Come to me, all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will give you rest.
Connect
What are your most common ways to rest or unwind?
What makes it difficult for you to rest?
What do you consider Sabbath rest and how does it look different from your first answer?
Discuss
Read
Matthew 11:28-30. What words stand out to you in these verses? Read
Jeremiah 6:16. What words stand out in this verse? Which are you more like, the person who will accept Jesus’ invitation, or the one who hears the invitation and says "no, that’s not the road we want”?
Read
Matthew 12:1-8. What point is Jesus trying to make? Where do you find legalism keeping you from true rest in the Lord? What checkbox mentality do you deal with that keeps you from real Sabbath rest?
Read
Philippians 4:6-7,
Psalm 119:105,
Matthew 6:25-27,
Psalm 40:2-3. Discuss what each of these have to do with rest and what that might look like for a modern audience. What about specifically for you?
Action Steps
If you have never taken the time to figure out how Jesus wired you to connect with Him, spend some time this week figuring out when you connect with God best.
Once you do, or if you already know, be intentional about scheduling some time to do that very thing that connects you to the Lord.
Since God set the model of work and service before rest, take a minute to explore our Serve page and find a spot where you think you can belong:
https://thecrossing.church/serve
Pray
Jesus, thank You for the beauty that comes with a freshly fallen snow, and that even though our landscape is blanketed in a wintery powder, we have the capabilities to share in Your word with our families at home. We ask You to protect all of those who have to venture out, and all of those who may be stuck out in the frigid temperatures.
We know that You have wired each of us in a special way to connect with You, and we ask You to reveal that to each one of us. Equip us with the tools we need to find You in our rest. Help us to realize the way we truly rest is by being connected to You. You are the only one who can deliver us that Sabbath rest that we all so desperately need. Help us make the time this week to be intentional and realistic about connecting our spiritual pathways with You.
We ask all of this in your most Holy Name. Amen.
Well, hey, thank you for joining us for a different kind of weekend. If, if, if you're not in the St. Louis area, we've had some weather come through, and, uh, just because of that and the spirit of keeping everybody safe, we've decided to not meet in person this weekend. But I'm so thankful for the technology that allows us to gather and worship and pray and open up God's word and hear from him. So we're gonna keep going in this Base Camp series, and I'm excited to walk through another really important and practical tool that will help us grow in our relationship with Jesus, because that's what Jesus is. Jesus is offering each of us, whether you're skeptical or doubting or worried stressed, maybe you feel worn down or maybe you're so ready to worship, you can't even stand it wherever you are. Jesus says, come to me and take this next step in your relationship with me. Now, there are a lot of things in life that keep us from taking those steps. Maybe you're thinking about those right now. Well, can I give you one of mine busyness. Sometimes I just feel too busy to take a step. And I think, I think that's true for many of us. We look at our calendars, we look at our deadlines, we think about all the activities and the responsibilities, and before you know it, we start to feel tired, anxious, burdened. Or maybe, maybe you're at home right now and you're sitting by the fire and you're all comfy and cozy and you're thinking burdened. Ben, what do you mean by burdened? I'm not burdened. Well, what I've found in life is that regardless of how we feel in a certain season, at one point or another, things will happen and the tiredness will come and the exhaustion will come. And if we're not proactive about something that Jesus says, uh, in the book of Matthew, I think it's gonna come back to hurt us in the long one. So we're gonna go to the Gospel of Matthew. There's a promise here that I think is just so, so important for us. You'll find it in Matthew chapter 11. Jesus says, come to me all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. You see, that's the Jesus we're going to meet with today. Regardless of how you feel right now, whether you're burdened or not, that's the Jesus who wants to meet with you. So tell you what, no matter where you're joining us from, why don't we pray right now and let's ask him to show up and speak to us. Will you pray with me? Jesus, I am thankful for your presence. I am thankful that you're at work. I am thankful for your word, that it is trustworthy and true, and you use these truths to speak to us today. So God, no matter where we are in our walk with you, I'm asking just show us that next step to take in our journey. And I'm praying that as we do it, we'll learn a little bit more about what it means to be refreshed by you and experience your goodness and your grace. We ask all of this in the name of Jesus our Savior, amen. So Jesus invites us to go to Him and rest. And if we're honest, we need it, regardless of how you feel right now, at one point or another, we're going to need this rest. And what's interesting is the stats back this up and what they show is we're not just tired or weary. We're actually burnt out. Uh, the Barner research group years back, we did a study, and what they found is these feelings of burnout, they're actually present in every single demographic. So I wanna make sure I get these numbers right. 37% of boomers admit to feeling burnt out. Uh, more than half of generation X reports to feeling moderately burned out. A third of them say they're extremely stressed. Or 51% of millennials or Gen Zs say they're highly stressed. They, they talk about this constant fear of failure that they have the, uh, the peak stress age, like the time in your life where you are the most stressed. It used to be somewhere in your forties. Guess where it is now? 25, 25 years old. And there's a whole lot of people watching this right now thinking, yep, that sounds about right. And what I love about Jesus is he doesn't ignore our stress. He doesn't look the other way. He doesn't pat us on the back and say, suck it up. You got this. No, Jesus says, for those of us who feel stressed or worried or burdened, Jesus says, come to me and you will find rest, even in a fast moving world, even if you don't think you need it. And the Bible has a word for that kind of rest. It's actually the tool we're gonna be talking about today. Sabbath. Jesus wants you to experience Sabbath rest. But what does that actually mean? Because for some of us, we might have grown up in an environment where this idea of Sabbath was weaponized. Like maybe, maybe it was a legalistic sort of thing where you had to wear really uncomfortable clothes and spend hours at church and Sabbath just became a list of a bunch of things you weren't allowed to do. Or maybe, uh, maybe you do. Look at your calendar and Saab sure sounds nice, but these days with everything you have going on, it feels like a pipe dream. Or maybe, maybe you're one of the many joining us who are new, new to faith, still asking questions. And you have no idea what I even mean by this word, Sabbath. So let's, let's define it. Uh, Sabbath is any activity that God uses to breathe life back into you, to sustain you, to restore you. That's Sabbath rest. And, and, and what you do to rest will look different depending on how you're wired, depending on the season of life you're in or your circumstances. But one thing is true for all of us. Jesus, he longs to refresh us. And this rhythm of work and rest, it actually shows up all throughout scripture. It's woven into the very fabric of creation itself. So way back in the beginning, and I mean the beginning, we see God at work. He speaks the cosmos into existence. He, he creates this world. He creates creatures to then populate this world. And then the culmination, the climax of that creative work was us, you and me, men and women, those who uniquely bear the image of God. And then it says that on the seventh day, God rests. Now, just so we're clear, God's not tired. He didn't need a break, which I think is really important for those of us who don't really feel like we need a break. Because even though God wasn't tired, he still models this rhythm of work and rest that I think is the antidote to the hurry and the anxiety and the burnout that we might feel from time to time. So God works and then God rests and he invites us, his image bearers into that same rhythm. So in Genesis, after God creates everything, he puts man in the garden and he gives man a job to do. He says, work it and keep it. Uh, in other words, work it or take care of it. Uh, one way to translate the Hebrew there is to cultivate and steward this world that is a part of our job as image bearers. We are called by God to work in and with his creation. That that is a foundation of our calling. We use our gifts and our talents and our personalities to make a difference in this world for God's glory. Uh, and, and making things just a little bit better along the way by the power of His Holy Spirit. And that covers every single area of our life. It includes our jobs. Like your occupation right now is a part of this calling on your life to work in and with creation. And what that means is you're not just a doctor or a bus driver or a store clerk, or a computer programmer or a parent or a student. No. If you follow Jesus, you do those things. But then you take, uh, Jesus's way of doing things, you carry his presence into every space you inhabit. And that work, just so we're clear, it's it's, it's not limited to a traditional nine to five job, stay at home parents. That's work. Students juggling schoolwork and and, and homework and all the extracurricular stuff. That's work. Even right now. If you find yourself unemployed, the act of looking for a job in and of itself can turn into a job itself. That is work. And no matter what you do, through all that Jesus, he wants you to bring his way of doing things into those spaces, both inside and outside of the walls of the church. You learn to live and love and serve like Him, which is one of the reasons why we're so passionate about our serve and outreach teams at the crossing. Because they're not the only time you're gonna love and serve others and act like Jesus that's happening everywhere you go seven days a week. But they are a great first step to learn what that looks like. Because when you brew coffee to make people feel welcome, uh, when you tell a little one about Jesus and kids crossing when you pray with a high school student on Wednesday nights, when you, uh, help people park their cards or work behind the scenes, pulling off everything that happens on the weekend, or if you, with our outreach teams go into our city to begin to spread the hope and the message of Jesus in this city and say that, that, that, that we're for you and that God is for you, when you do those things, you begin to learn one, that this is part of what we were made for. But also Jesus, he begins to show up and change you. He begins to make you different from the inside out. And then you begin to develop relationships with people along the way. You wake arms with them, you learn what it's like to live life together. This is a picture of what it's like to serve and begin to learn how we carry these ideas into our jobs and into where we go. So if you have any questions about that, uh, you can come talk to us. Come to the bullpen, come to the connection point, email pastors at The Crossing Not Church. You can hop on our calendar page and just see all the different ways that we have to serve and all of those opportunities. But the point is, we work. And as we do that, God begins to work in us. And in response to that, we begin to see everything we do as an opportunity to bring Him glory. And with that mindset, everything we do is an opportunity to worship because we're doing it for him. So work and all that it means is a part of following Jesus. This is a part of how we grow as disciples, but we don't want the work that we do to get in the way of who we're doing the work for. And that's why Jesus says, don't work yourself in the ground. Remember the Sabbath, come follow me. That's why we see that in Genesis. That's why we see that commanded in the 10 Commandments that lie. That's why Jesus himself says, come to me and you will find the rest you crave. So let's pause and talk about this because as we've already said, uh, rest in our world today, 'cause it's so fast paced, it's a lot easier said than done. So here's what I want you to do. I want you to turn to the people you're watching this with and ask a question. And, and if you're watching by yourself, maybe text a friend your answer to this question or maybe write it down so you can keep thinking about it, keep praying about it, email us about it. But here's the question. What makes it difficult for you to rest? So talk to each other and we'll be back going here in just a bit. All right. So these questions during the message are just such perfect times for us to really think about what we're, uh, studying and applying it to our lives. So in the spirit of that, I invited my friend Judy, who's one of our pastors, and she's gonna jump in on this conversation. So let's do that. Let's just, let's, Judy, let's start with that question. What makes it difficult for you to Sabbath? For me, I love my job. Get my job done. When I go home, there is this to-do list in my brain. Nobody's putting pressure on me to do the to-do list, but I have it in my brain. I have to do this, I have to do the laundry, I have to do this and that to-do list whether real or imaginary is the thing that keeps my brain from wanting to Sabbath. So your brain can't even go into rest time. Correct? Correct. Like, until I check things off, I feel like I can't Sabbath. And once again, no one's putting the pressure on me. Yeah. But but still, you're, you're coming to this with a to-do list with a checkbox mentality, which in a lot of ways can really make what should be rest turned into work. Correct. Which goes against what Jesus says back in that chapter in Matthew. 'cause when he talks about this rest that he wants us to experience, he says that his yoke is easy and his burden is light. Now, that word yoke was just a fancy way for Jewish teachers in the first century to talk about how they approached and, uh, and, uh, began to apply God's law to their lives. And every teacher had a yoke, but not all y yolks were created equal. Uh, in fact, sometimes they were burdensome, like the Pharisees yoke. That was a heavy yoke. If you're new to church, uh, the Pharisees were part of Jesus's greatest opposition to his earthly ministry. And they had a way of approaching the law and applying it that involved stacking up these manmade rules and regulations. They were super smart and super religious. So almost their smartness overtook 'em. Yeah. And they kept get their smartness, made them layer on rules and rules and rules and rules. And we do that too. Yeah. We just can't blame the Pharisees. We do that too. We can find ourselves thinking, you know, people have to do it our way, way or this is what it looks like. Mm-hmm. Which we'll get to that in a, in a minute. But, uh, by one count there were dozens of restrictions around Sabbath that the Pharisees made, uh, from anything, uh, from, uh, you couldn't pick grain on the Sabbath. Even if you were starving. There were limits to how much you could really help somebody or heal somebody. If someone was sick. Scholars, they estimate 39 different categories of work which detailed, uh, how far you could walk before it became work. What could you carry? How heavy could that object be? And they began to come up with this system that kept people from working. Got it. So just so we're clear, the Pharisees came up with a system of work that kept people from working. So to try not to work, they created more work for people to do. And before you know it not work, and those people were working and not working. And I, that is exhausting. Like, I, I feel burdened just by, uh, saying that sentence and really that whole approach to Sabbath, it completely misses the point because Sabbath was never really about not doing something. Sabbath was about doing those things that gave you rest. And those things are related. Sometimes you have to stop doing to do those things, but they're different. So Sabbath, it's more than just stop working and twiddling your thumbs and doing nothing. Sabbath is about proactively and regularly going to God, experiencing his presence, allowing him to breathe life into you. And that's when we began to experience this rest that Jesus. Well, that's, and that's what you just said, your definition was when God breathes life into you. Yeah. Yeah. So if the way of the Pharisees, if they're yolks, not gonna cut it. And we also don't just wanna ignore Sabbath altogether because Jesus commands it. God models it for us. How do we keep moving forward? What are some practical ways, some handles that we can hang onto when it comes to Sabbath? And for me, the first one that comes to mind, and it's the obvious one, but I think that's a good place to start a lot of the time, is prayer. We go to God and ask him. I mean, if you think about it, if he's the creator of life, if, if he's the author of my life and your life, he's gonna know better than anyone what it looks like for me to rest based on how he's wired me. And, and Jude, we were talking about a framework that, that, that we've been using at this church for a long time. That's just so, so helpful. If you're seeking Jesus, just checking out the claims of Christianity, one of the greatest benefits of surrendering your life to Jesus, once you say, I give, would you lead my life? Is the Holy Spirit comes in. And then God wires you in a way to connect with him. Mm-hmm. And it's not the same for everybody. Yeah. One of the neatest things My way is different than your way. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. There's two resources I wanna give you. If this interests you and you're like, Ooh, I wonder how the Lord has wired me to connect with him, that is, how do I sabbath with God? Yeah. Yeah. There's a book, a workbook you can actually get it. It's called An Ordinary Day with Jesus, written by John Ortberg and Ruth Haley Barton. And also another book called, uh, sacred Pathways by Gary Thomas. These are two ways that you can figure out how has the Lord uniquely wired me to connect with him? 'cause once you do it, that's when Sabbath comes to life. So, like with Ortberg and Barton, they'll say things like, some of us were wired to experience him by being in creation. God is not creation. He created creation. Yeah. But I some of you are listening right now going, oh, when I'm outside, I experience God. When I see a mountain, a rainbow, a cloud, I experienced God. Yeah. Others of you, it's worship, music, uhhuh. You know, the minute a song comes on, something changes in your heart, uhhuh and you experience God. It can be the Bible. Uhhuh. A lot of you go, I experience God the most when I read his word. Um, others, it's with people. Mm-hmm. Some of you were wired, God's breathed into you to rest through interactions with people where others, it's the silence and the solitude. Yeah. Um, for me, when I've, the first time I went through this, then I went through and, and the Lord very clearly, worship is a main one for me, but the other big one is running, you know me. Yeah. It's, and deep water running something. I encounter God the best. He speaks to me, convicts me, draws me close to him when I'm running. Um, what's yours, by the way? Um, so, so me, I'm very much a, a relationship guy. So I, I, I being, uh, with community, being in people, that's part of how God, how God kind of You're a musician. Yeah. Is is music a part of yours? Kind of. But I, I did it for so long that it started to feel like work, so Oh, interesting. Yeah. So it's, but it's really good for me to hear that it's different because I've always been an been an indoor kid. So like, if people are like, you have to get outside or you have to, if Judy, if you said you have to run. Nope. Uh, because that's what I do. Really what we're doing is getting into kind of a legalistic mindset. Correct. And that's another handle for us to think about. 'cause when it comes to Sabbath, we need to resist legalism. Right. To say it another way, don't be like a Pharisee. I mean, it's kind of just what we were talking about, recognizing that works. What, what works for you might not work for me, and what works for me might not work for someone else. So we don't wanna fall under the trap of thinking that everyone else has to rest or sabbath exactly how we do. Because when we do that, it becomes, you know, instead of, uh, this rest and this life-giving, um, experience with God, it becomes these rigid rules that almost squeeze the life out of us. Correct. And if you're wondering, Ooh, am I doing that right now? Legalism, if you hear yourself saying the words, I have to, instead of, instead of I want to, or I long to, Or I get to the fact that we get To correct. So like, I long to run because I experience God when I run. It's not, I have to go for a run. Um, so part of it, I, I would say if you're trying to figure this out, a lot of it, if you're, if you're engaging in something and your blood pressure goes down mm-hmm. And it comes naturally to you, and you feel God's presence, that's probably your pathway to connect with him, which should be a part of your Sabbath. Mm-hmm. Because you should want to do it, not have to do It. Yeah. Those things that give us life, we should want to prioritize them because they, they give us life. Right. Which, um, is not true when we get all legalistic about Sabbath. So it, what do you think happens to our, like our hearts when we have that legalistic, more pharisee approach where everyone has to rest exactly like I do? Can I tell you how it happens for me? Yeah. If, especially the intellectual route, when I hear people who connect with God best through scripture, they'll go, I spent two hours in the word I encountered Jesus. I can get very jealous. And I guilt, guilt, guilt and shame. Okay. I should be like them. I'm a pastor, and if there's guilt and shame, I have to stop and go, wait, wait, wait. That's not the voice of God. That's the voice of the evil one. Yeah. And the voice of God is conviction, But not guilt or shame, Not condemnation. Yeah. It's, and I have to stop, I have to stop myself Yeah. And go, no, no, no, no. That's how we wired them. Yep. But I have to figure out how is he wired me? And It's his kindness that leads to repentance. Not any feelings of guilt or shame, uh, kind of going the other way. Sometimes we feel shame. I know when I've kind of fallen into that legalistic trap, it can lead to pride. Yeah. Suddenly I got it all figured out. You know, I, when it comes to Sabbath, I'm the expert. Everyone should learn from me. And pride is always, always, always one of the greatest obstacles to the spiritual life. Absolutely. And growing and growing our relationships with Jesus. Absolutely. So, uh, with all of that, then, uh, this last handle I think is, it's just so practical, but this idea of we have to be intentional and be realistic. Really what that means is we need to choose, uh, whether, you know, depending on how we're wired, we choose something to Sabbath that's doable and achievable. So there's a bunch of options, a bunch of right answers, but, uh, planning, you know, one night, one night a month on your calendar, right. To, to do that hobby that, that, you know, gives you life that you don't think you have time To do. And can I, can I back up for two seconds? Yeah. When you set something too high for yourself mm-hmm. The guilt and shame checks, and, and then you stop doing it. Yeah. So that's what I love when you you said be realistic about it. Yeah. And set the bar. Um, that's where even I love that we're doing the first five mm-hmm. Because for a lot of people where this is very new, it's doable. Yeah. It's Doable. It's doable. Yeah. And, and it's just an easy first step for people that are brand new to this. Yeah. And, and, and it's so helpful too. Like, it's been so good for me to have, uh, these words from the psalms on my mind and on my heart as I move throughout my week. It's just such a, such a proactive way that we can talk about rest and, and, and Sabbath. But for me, you and I are, both of our days are off on Friday. Mm-hmm. And when it comes to Sabbath, we're both pretty protective of our Fridays. Yeah. Like if there's an emergency, I'll step in, but my Fridays, I do everything possible to protect it. Yep. And then engage in my spiritual pathways. Mm-hmm. How he's wired me. So I run, I worship, I do all those things that breed life into me for my husband. It's cooking for a friend of ours, a pastor here, once a month, he goes fishing, he comes back from fishing a day of fishing, and he is a whole new guy again. You know? Um, I have a friend that will intentionally on their days off, uh, so, and create with their hands. So it's really important to everything you said to do it because when we do it, we experience God's presence and that's when the Sabbath comes in. Yep. And really, that's what I love about all of these base camp tools that were covered in this series, is that they're not really at all about how perfectly you do them. They're about who you're doing them for. And really that's, I mean, that's why we started with those words from Jesus about coming to him because it really is all about him and letting him breathe life into us. And when we begin to drop whatever burdens we're carrying at his feet, whether we realize we need to or not, when we do that, we find that his way really is better. And that is the antidote to the hurry, to the anxiety, the stress and the burnout that we feel. And that's where we find the peace. Yeah. And the purpose and the hope that comes from following Jesus. And it all starts with going to him. So a, as we head for home, I'd love to end this just with those words of Jesus ringing in our ear. So would you mind reading them and then go ahead and, uh, pray for us as we Would be my honor. Matthew 11 verses 28 through 30, come to me, all of you who are weary and burden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me. For I'm gentle and humble and heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light. Hope. Oh Lord. You proactively wrote Sabbath into your plan for us. It's supposed to be a life-giving practice, a base camp tool to help us do this journey with you and those around us in a healthy way. Reveal to each one of us how you have specifically wired us to connect with you. Help us figure out those practices and rhythms that allow your spirit to breathe life back into us. Lord, may none of us neglect the crucial practice of Sabbath. Thank you for looking out for us. Thank you for wiring us to connect with you. Give us the courage now to embrace Sabbath because we know only in you will we truly find rest. In the name of Jesus I pray, amen. Amen.